Over the past three years, I have worked as a part-time private tutor specializing in STEM subjects. Through my experience, it has become apparent that students in Hong Kong are struggling under immense pressure. In this article, I will explore the complexities of the parent-child relationship in the context of education, shedding light on the outdated philosophies and societal influences that contribute to this issue.
Parents naturally want the best for their children, there is no way I can disagree with that, but it is not always true what Mum and Dad think is the best. In Hong Kong, there is a prevalent belief that success is defined by prestigious professions such as doctors or barristers. Deviating from these career paths can result in children feeling like failures, leading to significant stress. This pressure is not only subjective; it is evidenced by the alarming increase in the suicide rate among Hong Kong students. From what I saw in the past few years, I noticed that over half of the students study coding and engineering only because their parents think this can make them rich in the future or simply just think computer engineering is awesome and cool.
Hongkongers are greatly influenced by the traditional Chinese concept of “fame & money.” This mindset often leads parents to choose career paths for their children based on societal expectations rather than their genuine interests and passions. Consequently, children may find themselves pursuing fields they have no interest in, solely to meet their parents’ expectations. This disconnect between personal interest and forced aspirations can be disheartening and demotivating for students.
Jealousy also plays a significant role in intensifying student pressure. Many students are enrolled in extracurricular classes, not because they are really interested in them, but because their parents believe it will give them a competitive edge over their peers. The pursuit of academic achievements becomes a means for parents to show off to their family and friends, rather than fostering a love for learning in their children. This situation is particularly disheartening when children are forced to participate in activities that they have no interest in.
Traditionally, the stress of studying and preparing for future employment was primarily experienced by adolescents. However, in recent years, even primary school students have begun to contemplate self-harm due to academic stress. This distressing trend spotlights the urgent need for a re-evaluation of the educational environment in Hong Kong, where children are burdened with expectations that are far beyond their capabilities.
Once again, I am not seeking to blame or vilify parents. Rather, this article aims to highlight the detrimental effects of the current educational system influenced by outdated Chinese philosophies. To create a more nurturing environment for students, it is crucial for parents to consider their own expectations and capabilities before pressuring their children into achieving the impossible.
The pressures faced by students in Hong Kong are a complex issue rooted in societal influences and outdated philosophies. By recognizing the detrimental effects of these pressures on children’s well-being, we can work towards creating a more balanced and supportive educational environment. It is essential for parents and society to prioritize the genuine interests and well-being of students, allowing them to pursue their passions and dreams without unnecessary burdens.